Lived My 20s to Love My 30s

My 20s were a wild time. I was college bound, raving, clubbing, hooking up, breaking generational trauma, and finally finding the love of my life. Despite its chaos, I don’t regret anything I’ve experienced during this time because it all led to the beautiful life I’m living now. There are many reason for me to love my 30s after living my 20s, but here are the main ones:

The Sweet Spot

I’m currently in a “sweet spot.” I just finished graduate school, my one year wedding anniversary is around the corner, I’m in pre-motherhood (wanting a family, but still enjoying a child-free marriage), and I’m earning a decent living while pursuing my writing on the side. I’m in this blissful “in between.” I’m grateful for where I am, while anticipating for the next level to manifest. There’s uncertainty, but it’s drowned out by excitement. Anxiety can kiss my ass!

Photo by Javier zhang on Unsplash

A New Legacy

Breaking generational trauma was messy in my 20s, but in my 30s, the rewards run deep. What did breaking generational trauma involve? In short, gaining the self-awareness to shift my mindset from survival mode to a more creative mindset, embrace emotional maturity, and replace negative habits from my upbringing with healthier ones. I now get to choose values and principles that resonate with my soul, shaping the kind of people I want to bring into the world. It gives me chills to know that I’ll be creating a generation of people who get to have a life they don’t need to heal from.

Photo by Jochen van Wylick on Unsplash

In My Own Lane

I catch myself comparing my progress to others, but I remind myself that I’m in my own lane, following my own timeline. There’s relief in focusing on the things that only I can control, like my emotions, mindset, habits, and the company I keep. It’s no wonder my 20s felt chaotic. I didn’t know who I was yet and allowed my focus to bounce from one thing to another without considering the kind of energy it brought into my life. In my 30s, I understand that my focus and energy are my spiritual currency—they’re reserved for what aligns with my values and the life I’m creating.

Photo by Bryan Brittos on Unsplash

Every stage of my life calls for a new version of me. This version is all about enjoying the “sweet spot,” creating my legacy, and focusing on what I can control. Every new version of me comes with its own challenges, but there’s peace in knowing there’s a blessing waiting on the other side. I’m in love with my life and I know my 20-something self would be proud, even relieved, to see that all the chaos eventually led to something meaningful.