5 Reasons My Sister is the Best Friend I’ll Ever Have
Sister relationships can be the greatest gift on Earth or a pain in the ass. The best ones are a little bit of both! As the younger sister, I have my annoying moments and my older sister has hers. But in the end, it’s the meaningful moments we share that defines our relationship. From pretending to be the Spice Girls as kids to witnessing each other walk down the aisle as adults, my sister and I have been through it all. Friends may come and go, but my sister is forever. Here are five reasons why she’s the best friend I’ll ever have.
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1) She’s Been There for Me Since the Beginning (Literally)
My sister is four years older than me, so she’s been there for me since I was born. Whether or not she knew it, she became like a second mom and cared for me when our parents weren’t always present. Over time, her presence became a source of comfort and support I could rely on as I grew into the woman I am today. Even if there were times when we drifted apart and learned some of life’s lessons on our own, we always found our way back to each other. I often wish she had an older sister like her to guide her through the hardest moments she faced when she was younger. But now I realize that I’m that person for her as we unpack and heal those experiences together. My sister has been there for me since the beginning and now I can be there for her until the end.
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2) She Shares and Understands My Trauma
Because we share the same parents and upbringing, we also share many of the same struggles and emotional scars. We’re able to talk about our past experiences and reflect on how it affects us today. This shared understanding of our past (plus our affinity for psychology) allows us to have therapy-like venting sessions. Whether it’s 2+ hours or twenty minutes, our conversations are deep, sometimes hilarious, and always filled with nuggets of wisdom. The trauma we experienced as kids didn’t break us, but made us more self-aware adults who are committed to breaking generational cycles for the sake of our own families. Being able to share this perspective with my sister is one of the greatest blessings of my life.
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3) She’s the Best Girl Date and Shopping Partner
We both have busy lives, so we have “sissy dates” every now and then for quality bonding time. It doesn’t have to be extravagant hang outs (although it’s nice to have them once in a while) because we have the best time even when we’re just watching a movie or catching up over coffee and brunch. When we do treat ourselves to an extravagant date, it usually includes hours of shopping. One time, we went for at least eight hours and honestly, I can’t imagine doing that with anyone else. We have similar taste in clothes, and I trust her opinion on most things, which makes her the perfect shopping partner. Even when one of us isn’t really in the mood to shop, we are still there for support!
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4) She Shares My Humor and Childhood Memories
Whether we’re cracking inside jokes, reminiscing about childhood memories, or just being our corny selves, laughing with my sister is the best medicine. With her, I can be the silliest goose and she’s just as silly right back. Even when we analyze some of our childhood traumas, we manage to take the power out of it by laughing about it. Our shared humor and childhood memories are simple joys we can always count on to lift our spirits.
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5) She Keeps it Real
My sister tells me the truth, even if it hurts. Whether it’s advice about my romantic relationships, other family members, or anything about life, she will speak her mind! It’s never out of cruelty, she just doesn’t enable anything that’s harmful to me. I tend to approach situations with more emotion, while she offers a logical perspective that helps keep my self-awareness in check. This is the trait of a true best friend—they care enough to tell you when you’re fucking up because they respect you and want to see you grow.
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